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Study: Relationships Might Suffer Strain Due to Facebook
Michael Hill/AP
August 17, 2009
ALBANY, N.Y. – Alice Connors-Kellgren was surprised by her boyfriend’s new Facebook profile picture a few weeks ago: He was kissing another girl on the cheek.
The picture was up only briefly. And she figures it was just a friend. But she plans to discuss it with him when they’re back together this fall at Cornell University.
“We trust each other. Deep down, I know nothing is going on. But when you first see it, it’s like `Oh my goodness! What’s going on here?’” says the college student from Westchester County, N.Y.
All this friending, poking and picture-posting on Facebook can get you in trouble with your significant other. Couples are finding that old flames and flirty friends on the social networking site have a unique ability to stir jealousy and suspicion.
Jealous types now have to deal with brand-new kinds of provocations, such as a comment on their partner’s wall from a possible romantic rival, or their loved one getting tagged – identified – in a picture from an old relationship. Boyfriends and girlfriends can view all of this on their partners’ walls.
“It seems like Facebook is creating jealousy even where there was not jealousy to begin with,” said Amy Muise, a doctoral candidate at the University of Guelph’s psychology department who led a recent study on how Facebook can spark jealousy in romantic relationships among college students.
She said Facebook doesn’t necessarily make people more jealous than they would be normally. But all the information divulged on Facebook – those answers to “What’s on your mind?” and reactions to those posts – can increase “triggers” for jealousy.
"Part of the issue with information on Facebook is that it lacks certain context, " Muise said, “so there could be things posted on your partner’s wall that you really don’t know what it means.”
The study was based on anonymous online survey data from 308 undergraduate Facebook users, three quarters of them women. The study, published in CyberPsychology & Behavior, found Facebook users can get snagged in a “feedback loop”: Their interest piqued by a cryptic wall comment, they become suspicious and start monitoring their partner’s pages, thus finding even more suspicious information.
Dan Fitzsimmons, a 21-year-old University at Albany student, said he has had to explain Facebook photos to girlfriends in the past.
Seamus
3 months ago
66 comments
Sounds to me that Facebook is being used as a scapegoat for people who have exceedingly bad judgment regarding what they post, and how they use their account.
To say nothing of poor communication with their significant other.
Battlesrl
3 months ago
4 comments
People the problem is that people just dont use good judgment when posting comments or photos. My thing is stay in contact with your significant others and that will avoid any issues. Also, I dont date people whom are jealous and untrustworthy. Also, I do have to agree partly with wmjosiah most people are not going to be honest when they are online. The person that you know is not the real person at all.
ckerne054
3 months ago
2 comments
I agree 100% with this article. Facebook can really just be a stresser when it comes to relationships. That is why I deleted my Facebook account a couple months ago. Better to just go back to the roots of texting, and CALLING.
kooskai
3 months ago
4 comments
@verakot - Amen!! I couldn't agree more
verakot
3 months ago
116 comments
Facebook needs to be banned.
wmjosiah
3 months ago
2 comments
This is absurd. If people were honest with each other about their feelings for other people and dealt with it before it came up over facebook, there wouldn't be a problem. If people have issues with their significant other being tagged in a photo with an old boyfriend or girlfriend, they have bigger issues to deal with. This isn't a problem with facebook, this is just pointing out how dishonest our society is.
bodymiles
3 months ago
14 comments
The thing with being tagged in facebook photos is, you never really know the 'friends' you're appearing with, in the photo. They could end up being recognised as that crazy person caught shop lifting or the person who stalked and harrassed another friend.
The social networking world is a crazy and dangerous one, in my opinion, people spend too much time on it.
bsgray21
3 months ago
2 comments
Great article! I have personally had issues with this. The girl actually broke up with me on facebook, because it sounded like I was having too much fun without her while I was home from college. Kinda sucks when you think things are going great until you see the infamous "_______ ended their relationship" post and that person is the one your dating. Facebook should only be used to send the occasional msg to a friend but should not be for everyone and their momma to see.
Marc156
3 months ago
12 comments
The golden rule!
If you don't want to see your photos or information posted on the electronic Interstate for all to see! Then just be smart about what you post or send in e-mail.! It's that easy